Moving in with a boyfriend can have it’s ups and downs, but moving with a boyfriend to an entirely new state to begin an entirely new life seems nearly impossible. I’m so excited to plan for the future and start thinking about it in terms of “we,” but there are so many details and obstacles to consider and overcome. More like financial details and emotional obstacles. The first being a matter of saving up money, while the other is a little more difficult to tackle. Lately my mind has been going to places like, where do you want to go? What do you want to do? What if mine and his don’t coincide?
Luckily, we’re both open to moving somewhere new and trying to make a life in a completely different city together. The united front helps make this entire process seem a lot more doable. I’ll admit it – I am a little afraid of getting “stuck” in a city for the rest of my life. I want to travel… explore… and I’m afraid that won’t happen if I commit myself to one city right now. I know I’m getting ahead of my life… especially since a city has not yet been picked and no set decisions have been made. I really don’t know anything at this point, and I think that is what driving me crazy. The not knowing. There is also the thought of, what about New York? Do I want to stay here for another year? Am I ready to leave? Or, is this just another city I can get stuck in?
I’m so concerned with being free and adventurous, that I think I’m missing the point. The point is to be happy and fulfilled – that can look differently for everyone. For some, it’s starting a family and creating a life somewhere, settling down. For others, it’s travelling to exotic, new places and experiencing the world. Fitted like jigsaw pieces into each of these scenarios are careers, pets, rents and mortgages (both parental and financial), eating out, and of course, great shoes and accessories 
While one is more geographically monogamous and secure, the other is nomadic and unsettled. At this point, or for my point’s sake, I know that I want something in between.
